Not In Love With The Idea of Love!!

This is my first blog and if you know me, You already know how much I like writing for myself. But now lets see, what's on my mind!

I have often been asked what makes me reluctant towards the whole relationship fiasco and this is what I intend to answer here. 'I love you' are the three easiest words I have seen floating in the world today but surprisingly, they are still prove to be the most meaningless set of words. A lot of people who are 'madly in love' will never agree to this and its understandable because 'You cannot be in love and be wise at the same time'.

People have often regarded my views as 'sour grapes' but I would like to mention, 'I have been in love' and that too not just once, but twice. Each of it was different but still I will choose to not be madly in love again. 'Love' and 'relationship' has always made me lose myself and I have been lost in that other person's world. My world has started revolving around theirs unconsciously and it is not healthy for me. Trust me, its not rare, one of the two partners will always fall in this loop and then end up being miserable and unluckily, I have been the one. 

Almost all my close friends are with someone or are looking for someone and I am often accused of being 'not supportive' enough. But what I strive or look forward to in my life is a companion who lets me be sanely in love with him and is sanely in love with me. The one who has a life of his own and makes me stick to my life and share moments of smile and sorrow. He is allowed to ignore me when he is not doing okay and that won't make him 'not caring'. 

I often wonder when people proudly tell me that 'My love changed him'. Why did you change him? Were you not in love with what he was?  Were you yourself perfect that you changed him? I will not go all Instagrammy and tell you that I will be in love with his flaws but I will surely make peace with it because he is comfortable with that and its His Life. I am a part of his life and not all about his life. 

I am working and studying and pretty busy in my life. I love the independence I have got and I will not be intending to compromise on that for any amount of baby shona or babu thana thaya I get. I am proud of what I have made of myself in the last two years of being all on my own.

I agree that people love in their own crazy ways but if the love makes you more vulnerable than independent, I don't find it worth it. I am not looking for someone to be in love with but if I ever get someone like that, he will have to be my bestfriend first because Pyaar Dosti hai. (Pun intended)